I read an article on the Huff Post over the last week entitled “Can We Bring the Holidays Down a Notch?” The article is asking parents to stop going all out for the minor holidays like Valentine’s and St. Patrick’s Day, 100 Days of School and the list goes on and on.
While I appreciate the sentiment of how it could make your children feel to be left out, if you choose not to participate in these holidays, the article is shaming those parents who participate in this way.
In our family, K1 has asked why we don’t do the Elf on the Shelf. We had a discussion about family traditions. We told our children that every family is different, and every family has their own traditions around certain holidays and we do not do the Elf on the Shelf, however, we have our own traditions (Which both K1 and K2 love and look foward to each year).
Here’s the thing, you do you. If you’re the Queen of Pinterest, go for it (I envy the crafty mamas!. If you want to celebrate each holiday with presents and cake, go for it. If you don’t, don’t. You do want works for your family and I will do what works for mine.
There is no need for trying to keep up with the classmates nor to shame parents who do, or shame parents who don’t.
Talk with your kids, get a feel for what they are expecting and then explain to them what to (or not) expect. They can handle it and they won’t be disappointed. Make your own traditions that don’t involve money, or time-consuming crafts or creepy dolls (yes, the main reason why we don’t do the Elf, is because I find it super creepy looking. Yep I went there).
Make traditions involving family and quality time. The kids won’t remember the gifts, but they will remember the time you spent making leprechaun traps together, or, in our case, cooking a family meal together.
Love and Peace